Comments on: 10 Things No One Tells You About Married Sex

By: Tom

Tom — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 13:40:33 +0000

Annie – Porn is just another variation of the extramarital affair. And it’s never the sex that’s the problem, it’s always the lying that destroys the relationship. I would suggest counseling focused on building or rebuilding the honesty and trust between the two of you. If you can’t get that going, then you have no marriage. If you can develope the honesty and openness and the trust that follows, then porn or any issue you both have can be discussed and worked out together.

Please note: Once you both “get honest” with each other, you will be looking at each other as you really are, not as you want the other to be. Because of this, one or both of you may find you don’t want to be with the other. It is far more important that neither of you compromise your honesty about who you are and what you want, than it is to “hold your marriage together”. Because if you can’t show the other exactly who you are, you have no marriage to hold together.

By: J

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 02:59:44 +0000

I am a psychologist. These studies are not causal, but correlational, meaning that waiting for marriage may be correlated to a good marriage, but it certainly does not cause it. In addition, the reason that many marriages where couples wait do not end in divorce, is because people who believe in waiting tend to do so for religious reasons…and those same religions prohibit divorce.

Either way is not indicative of a good marriage. As someone else said, the best indicator of a good marriage is match in maturity levels.

By: annie

annie — Thu, 04 Apr 2013 15:32:53 +0000

Sean, Logan, and the others who have responded in kind to Alex’s comment,
What is your problem? There is absolutely no need to bring doubt and discouragement into someone else’s marriage. Maybe she is naiive. But maybe her husband isn’t looking at porn. I can understand your wanting to explain your point of view, but not your desire to break the trust she has in her husband. So you think she’s being naiive – give her your point of view concerning pornography, try to prepare for a day that may come when she finds out her husband is actually looking at porn. But don’t tell her that her husband’s deceiving her. Have more delicacy and more respect for her, her husband, and the trusting relationship they’ve built.

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By: Joe

Joe — Thu, 04 Apr 2013 00:49:42 +0000

WOW I am watching porn now lol

By: Edumacate me

Edumacate me — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 23:01:31 +0000

Or so at least that’s what he has you believe…

By: Mama's boy

Mama's boy — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 22:33:36 +0000

The one thing they also don’t tell you is that once you are married, sex is great at least initially. Even after a baby or two. Then between the work, stress, responsibility and lack of sleep, the first thing to go besides your body is your sex life. I would put up with porn if it meant I HAD a sex life. Now we just sleep! Oh well, at least I don’t get yeast and bladder infections anymore! The only thing is, I am only in my early 40′s.What I do in my 50″s, 60″s etc? We’ve already been together over 20 years!

By: Mama's boy

Mama's boy — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 22:28:02 +0000

Lenore knows what she is talking about. Porn an issue? No. But those d–n video games sure ARE! After years of marriage and children, now more than ever I feel I lost a husband and gained another child! Funny, before we were married my husband could cook, clean, wash his clothes, pay his taxes and other bills. Now I am the maid and supermom! Yippeee!

By: Logan

Logan — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 21:22:54 +0000

oh honey.. how naive.. he is just an expert at hiding it

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 19:26:40 +0000

Studies show it is healthy for both women and men to masturbate. I agree that porn is a personal choice that not everyone is ok with. My aunt is very against porn because her ex-husband has a porn addiction which is a real problem. So it was something I always worried about before I got married but my husband and I have occasionally watch it together. Honestly I have put it on more than he has and use it as a game to see if we can do exactly what they do.

Sexual health and education is a huge deal in our world. Most women do not even know how to have an orgasm, where their g-spot is, or even the difrent kinds of orgasms. Some women can’t even have one which is perfectly normal for their bodies. Everyone has
different desires and needs so it is wrong to dismiss someone’s opinion about sex. There is a huge lack of sexual education in this world. I am happy to see this site posting about sex. Sex should not be a taboo subject anymore.

Here is a great sexual health webs for any one interested http://www.pattybrisbenfoundation.org/