10 Things No One Tells You About Married Sex
GettySaying “I Do” can be a libido booster, so he might want even more sex now.
You’ve stopped obsessing about how you look, so you’re enjoying sex more than ever!
It’s easy to get lazy about taking your birth control–that surprise pregnancy is less of a big deal now.
You’ll do things that you never thought you’d do (hello, sex toys!) to keep things exciting.
Quickies are the new norm, and you love ‘em.
You have random romps that are so hot it’s like the first time all over again (only better).
You’ll dream about sex with old boyfriends once in a while. (Don’t worry, it’s normal!)
His obsession with oral sex will never go away, even after you’ve been married for years.
At times you’ll feel like your husband is cheating on you…with porn.
None of this sound familiar? For some couples married sex is exactly the same as it was before they were married.
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Some of these are definitely so true. But can I just say how glad I am that I don’t have to worry about the porn problem. It’s never been an issue for my husband. I think it really would feel like he was cheating on me and giving him false expectations about women and sex; so I guess I’m just really lucky that its not a temptation for him.
Alex, you are so lucky that porn isn’t an issue in your marriage!
Oh… he’s looking at porn, Alex. You just haven’t caught him yet. Why would it feel like he’s cheating on you? Guys are visual. He has no emotional or vested attachment to girls in porn. When guys think sex, they think fun and dirty – nothing more – so of course porn stars are ‘used’ as sexual objects. Who are you kidding?
Sean, Logan, and the others who have responded in kind to Alex’s comment,
What is your problem? There is absolutely no need to bring doubt and discouragement into someone else’s marriage. Maybe she is naiive. But maybe her husband isn’t looking at porn. I can understand your wanting to explain your point of view, but not your desire to break the trust she has in her husband. So you think she’s being naiive – give her your point of view concerning pornography, try to prepare for a day that may come when she finds out her husband is actually looking at porn. But don’t tell her that her husband’s deceiving her. Have more delicacy and more respect for her, her husband, and the trusting relationship they’ve built.
oh honey.. how naive.. he is just an expert at hiding it
Or so at least that’s what he has you believe…
porn is a real issue… it shouldn’t be addressed as a casual thing. Porn should NOT be in your marriage… marriage is sacred.
Porn is a big issue! It is meant for show, not for intimacy. It has no place in a marriage.
you see you say porn does’nt have a place in a marraige but you see ladies , It has found a place in life not just marraige . Guy’s get into watching porn in their teen years and become custome to viewing or reading it or looking at magazines , but yoy see like staying thin an good looking and taking care of your self as a woman is engraved into you while growing up to the extent that their is becoming a problem with children becoming anerexic . Our peer modules that we adhire to daily and while growing up is what we learn to fallow us guys are not watching porn to piss you ladies off or cheat we do it because we tend to have a higher yerning for sex and masturbation is the key for our release, I know .. I know !! … you ladies don’t believe in self gratifecation but most guys do and you ladies should be happy that we are just maturbating an watching porn and not going out and sleeping around .There are still plenty of guy’s that do that and with out a care in the world something all wives should think about before you shit on your husband for looking at some chick that he will never have an jerking off , Just think he could be out with something he can have an sleeping with her then coming home to lay beside you !! yes men are perverts .. But we are men and more so we are Human and Humans are to be permiscuis not tied down to one so . Like I said before you freak out next time or think that he has no right doing it remember he does’nt need to be just with you an he could be doing alot worse some where else other then @ home or even for the ballsy ones right in the bed you lay together in .
So glad I waited for marriage and don’t have to deal with most of that crap. Best decision of my life.
couldn’t agree more, Emily! totally worth waiting for.
Me too, Emily! No issues here because my husband and I both waited!
Ditto Emily! My husband and I waited as well- it eliminates a lot of issues right off bat.
Alex, you are very luck, my husband looks at porn all the time and lusts after women walking down the street. It has ruined our marriage!
I’m sorry. :/ Try some books like “7 Principles to Making Marriage Work” (By psycologist John Gottman). They don’t all address porn, but maybe something there can help.
Same here… I have the porn issue out of the two of us lol! And the quickies? I wish lol!
And I think the b.c. comment is rude. I had to have an abortion bc of a broken condom and conflicting timing early in our marriage. Its an insensitive thought to the ppl that carefully plan parenthood and their families.
I’m pretty sure an unplanned pregnancy is a big deal no matter what…children are a big financial and emotional decision. Getting pregnant without talking to your husband about it first and doing it on purpose could cause SERIOUS relationship problems.
last I checked if you’re having sex with your husband there is always a possibility of getting pregnant even if you’re taking bc. killing your child because he or she wasn’t “planned” won’t make your marriage better and you may regret lost parenthood for the rest of your lives.
People need to lighten up about the porn. And I have news for most people that claim their husbands aren’t ‘tempted’ or in to porn….uh yeah they likely are and you either don’t know or refuse to know. And it’s not necessarily a unhealthy activity, I agree that it CAN become damaging if your husband stops having sex with you, but come on ladies, watching porn is cheating?? And let me guess….you think he also never even LOOKS at another woman? And you NEVER look at any other man? As long as nothing reaches an unhealthy level or the activity is real-life (vs. watching a movie/looking at pictures) cheating, give your poor husbands a break. you can even ask to partake, you’d be surprised, it can be an exciting thing you do together to improve your sex life!
A loving respectful relationship CAN include porn. Try watching it together.. use toys together! It can get pretty hot!! Take the mystery out of stuff like that and you will feel a lot better.
People need to lighten up about the porn. And I have new for the ladies who think their husbands aren’t ‘tempted’ or are not ‘in’ to porn, they likely are and you either don’t know or refuse to know. And it’s not unhealthy necessarily! You’re also thinking that your hubby never even LOOKS at other women? And you NEVER looked at another man? I agree that porn can become damaging if it replaces your sex life, but unless the activity replaces sex with your husband or the activity he’s taking part in is real life (vs. watching a video of people who doesn’t know and will never know) cheating, give your poor husbands a break. Better yet, you can always pick something and watch it together as something new and exciting that actually improves your sex life! Denying reality, or making your spouse feel they must hide things only makes for secrets and you, as the other partner, feeling betrayed.
I couldn’t agree more with this statement lawgirl77.
For some people, porn actually ISN’T a huge issue. Some couples even watch it together. It’s definitely not a big deal in my marriage. Just depends on how you treat it and your belief system (not that it’s “better” or “worse,” just different).
This is silly. Corrections.
Saying “I Do” SHOULD be a libido booster, because you waited until marriage to have sex.
You’ve stopped obsessing about how you look, so you are more comfortable and able to be intimate with your partner with no reservations because you are secure in his love and know he is truly attracted to you. All of you.
It’s easy to get lazy about taking your birth control, but don’t surprise your husband with a baby that isn’t planned. Children are a big responsibility, so be prepared!
You’ll find that you don’t need the kinky stuff (Oh those sex toys!) to be intimate with your spouse; just try a new position or location every once in a while, and include lots of affection outside the bedroom.
Quickies are the new norm, and you love ‘em (most of the time).
You have random romps that are so hot it’s like the first time all over again (only better).
You’ll feel more connected and relaxed with your spouse, and like you fit perfectly together. You’ll eventually fall into a comfortable “rhythm” of sex and flirtation that feels so great, like you were meant for each other.
You’ll think about sex with old boyfriends once in a while. Even though this is fairly normal, you must not dwell on these thoughts because it might lead to demeaning your husband. (How would you feel about your husband daydreaming about other women?)
He will probably do the same few things that turned you on once, over and over again, unless you help him know what you like.
At times you’ll feel like your husband is cheating on you…with video games. You might find that your husband isn’t lame like other men and addicted to porn, though he will have other interests that are distracting.
This would be the revised fundamentalist & conservative version of things. This does not apply to everyone and I certainly am appalled by your narrow minded attitude. It’s not needed here.
@Joanna: if you’re so “open minded” why do you have such a problem with Lenore’s view? she is entitled to her views, however conservative they are, just as you are entitled to yours, however liberal they are.
I am open-minded. And I have no problem with her having those views. However, revising this post and making it seem like her statements were what everyone should be is what I have a problem with. As she said herself, “This is silly. Corrections.” Kind of rude to say that when plenty of people agree with it and it rings true to them. It’s as if we’re all in the wrong and stupid for agreeing with the post. That’s why I say she is narrow-minded.
Everyone is welcome to their own views. Just don’t insult others in the process.
Joanna, I can see how you may have felt that the “this is silly. corrections” comment was implying that you (and others who agreed with this post) are wrong – although “stupid” is a stretch, but I don’t know her original intent. However, I feel that just because her view doesn’t apply to everyone (as you said) it doesn’t make them wrong or narrow-minded.
Sadly the porn issue is very real. My husband and I have hit some major bumps in our marriage because of this, especially after the birth of our daughter, and adjusting to my new body. Porn got more action than I did, and I felt very cheated on. To make it worse, DH lied about it and tried to hide it (not in a very smart way). It almost ended our marriage and if it weren’t for having a child together, I was close to walking away because of all of the lying. After marriage counseling, lots of tears, resentment, and many honest conversations later, our marriage is finally doing well again and porn is not currently a part of it. I am truly scared of how things will go with our sex life after our 2nd child is born in April…I so hope this cycle is not repeated.
Ashley, I have been there. The two of you can rebuild trust, and if he understands now how hurtful his actions were after the birth of your first baby, then there should be no reason to fear his reaction in April. Hugs!
Ashley,
Your situation is almost an exact replica of the ordeal I’m in right now. I’m so happy that you and your husband have began to work things out! My hubby and I will hopefully get there one day also. We are currently looking for a marriage counselor.
Ashley, I’m so sorry to hear about this struggle in your marriage! I have had the same issue with porn in my marriage; although, for us, it began within the first few months of our marriage, not after a child (which I can understand would be heartbreaking, as you don’t have control over the changes in your body, and – maybe even more – you want to cherish that time and be excited with your husband about the treasure you’ve created together). My husband also tried to hide it, lied to my face, and even went as far as to make me feel like I was crazy for thinking he would ever do that (I had started having dreams, and I confronted him to ask if he was looking at porn). It has almost cost us our marriage, in more ways than one. I almost left him, and then I shut down emotionally – so I was still with him, but we weren’t at all emotionally connected. This has happened several times now.
My husband doesn’t want to continue this behavior, so we have worked together to fight for our relationship and to safeguard his daily behaviors against temptations (avoiding websites with porn ad links, not taking his ipad into the bathroom/private places, and spending more time focusing on things that help him move toward the person he wants to be). We are ending February now, which will make two months without “incident” (if he was “good” on a recent 10-day trip out of the country, which I have yet to ask him about — I so dread his answers, I don’t even like to ask!), the longest period of time he’s been committed to me, ever.
Do you have any advice for me that might help us overcome this obstacle and save our marriage? Is there anything that worked especially well for you and your husband – or some sage piece of wisdom given to you by your counselor or someone else? I have never told anyone about this issue because I was ashamed, and because I couldn’t bear for anyone I know to think poorly of my husband. I still think this is the right thing in our situation for now, but sometimes it’s really hard to go through this alone, with no help or advice from anyone
Thank you for your post, and I will remember you and your family in my prayers. I believe this kind of thing happens to really good people and in really good marriages, and I respect you and your husband both for putting in the effort to repair your marriage. I hope you’ll be rewarded with a relationship that is even stronger in the end
All the best,
Annie
Annie – Porn is just another variation of the extramarital affair. And it’s never the sex that’s the problem, it’s always the lying that destroys the relationship. I would suggest counseling focused on building or rebuilding the honesty and trust between the two of you. If you can’t get that going, then you have no marriage. If you can develope the honesty and openness and the trust that follows, then porn or any issue you both have can be discussed and worked out together.
Please note: Once you both “get honest” with each other, you will be looking at each other as you really are, not as you want the other to be. Because of this, one or both of you may find you don’t want to be with the other. It is far more important that neither of you compromise your honesty about who you are and what you want, than it is to “hold your marriage together”. Because if you can’t show the other exactly who you are, you have no marriage to hold together.
Oh my gosh! This is so true. Almost all of these hit the nail on the head. Ah, married life
I have expirienced exactly the opposite. After we got home from the honeymoon my honey’s libido seems to have “busted” instead of “boosted”. We have talked about it and he just feels like now that we are married he dosent have to try to impress me with his sexual abilities anymore. It’s not that we still dont enjoy one another, it’s just not every night(sometimes not every week!) like described in the article.
I am glad that I am not the only person who didn’t agree with this post. The comment section was more refreshing. Thanks Lenore.
Personally I find the porn comment in this article offensive because porn is demeaning to women and we deserve better. I find it ironic that the people who are posting that they waited for marriage to have sex aren’t experiencing any of these issues. Study after study has shown what a difference it makes in your happiness, quality of relationship, satisfaction, etc. etc.! My husband and I waited also and we couldn’t be happier or more in love. We don’t experience any of these issues either.
On the flip side, porn (or at least some types of it) could be seen as women taking control of their sexuality. This can include situations where a husband and wife choose to watch it together, instead of one spouse shaming the other or forcing them to hide things. As to your comment about the people NOT experiencing these porn issues being the ones who waited, you’re incorrect in many cases. I *gasp* lived with my now-husband for years before becoming married and *double gasp* we had sex before marriage. We’ve been happily married for over 10 years. We also have an open honest relationship and connected sex life, because he and I both know that we can come to the other to discuss things, even watching porn, without worrying that the other will act disgusted, be judgmental, or be close-minded. I know numbers of others who also did not wait and are experiencing loving committed marriage and families….waiting doesn’t equal successful marriages.
Lawgirl77, your tone is pretty condescending and I don’t appreciate that, but I can still respect your views and hope that you would respect mine. Just as you and many people you know who have had premarital sex have successful marriages, I and many people I know who have waited have very successful marriages. But you can’t ignore the fact that people who wait are more likely to have more stable marriages, higher satisfaction, and many other benefits. If you don’t believe me, just google “study of premarital sex linked to better marriage?” and it will take you to a plethora of studies and websites that show this same information. So yes, waiting doesn’t always equal successful marriages, but it is more likely to, and not waiting may lead to a successful marriage, but it is not as likely. Those are the facts- not just based on my personal experience.
I don’t know how some types of porn could be seen as women taking control of their sexuality, considering how demeaning porn is to women, reducing them to only the external i.e. their bodies instead of body, heart, mind and soul. My husband and I don’t need it to have an amazing sex life (I’m not trying to infer that you do), and honestly he thinks I’m beautiful regardless of whether I’m wearing sexy lingerie or sweatpants and a t-shirt.
Anyway, that is my opinion.
While my husband rarely looks at porn, its not a big deal unless it over-takes your ability to function normally. It can actually be very fun if you can be open minded. And we’ve been married almost 2 years and I don’t feel our sex life has changed at all. We had great sex 4-5 times a week before our wedding and now its about the same except he has a new job that requires him to travel so we have phone sex instead.
And “saving” yourself doesn’t make your marriage any better or worse. My personal experience as someone who has worked in the wedding industry for 7 years and from numerous studies over the years has shown the best indicator for a strong marriage is age and education level. I have seen so many young kids rush into marriage because they were “saving” themselves and couldn’t wait to have sex. I’ve actually, sadly, had several of those become repeat customers. The older and more mature you are, and actually experienced life a bit, the better chance you have at having a strong marriage in my opinion.
Murderbot, I agree that young kids who rush into marriage aren’t set up for a successful marriage, but saving yourself for marriage DOES have a significant effect on your relationship which study after study has shown. I’m sure education and experience are factors as well, but you can’t ignore the fact that divorce rates are lower for couples who wait. One such study quotes:
“Couples who wait until they are married to have sex appear to be much happier than those who race to get it on, according to a new study in the American Psychological Association’s Journal of Family Psychology.”
For the full article visit: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/the-hot-button/couples-who-wait-report-better-sex-lives/article1847555/
I am a psychologist. These studies are not causal, but correlational, meaning that waiting for marriage may be correlated to a good marriage, but it certainly does not cause it. In addition, the reason that many marriages where couples wait do not end in divorce, is because people who believe in waiting tend to do so for religious reasons…and those same religions prohibit divorce.
Either way is not indicative of a good marriage. As someone else said, the best indicator of a good marriage is match in maturity levels.
ditto many of the above. We waited until marriage to have sex and a lot of those issues never became issues. And as far as the porn thing goes, before I met my husband he admitted to having a problem with it. He has worked on it, and now it’s not an issue at all. People may think that’s naive of me, but that’s not true. We are very open about it because we both think it is wrong.
And I actually like Lenore’s version.
I just want to say that it is not okay for a man to be looking at porn. Unfortunately it is “normal” for that to be an issue, and most divorces have something to do with it.. But it is not in any way ok. If you are a woman who is struggling with your husband watching porn and and feeling useless or unattractive, please don’t think you have to live with it! I am not suggesting that you leave your husband, but don’t think that you are weird for feeling that way and that you just need to get over it. There is no getting over it until it isn’t happening anymore. Porn destroys relationships. Please make it clear to him your feelings and that it is not ok. I had to do this with my husband, and it was difficult for him because it is an addiction, but he overcame it. For some people it might help to show him some research about how much it harms not only a relationship, but also the person who’s watching it. http://pornharms.com/ . If you would like to talk to someone about it, or get more resources, please don’t hesitate to contact me. My email is emlewis@mail.com . This is something that is very close to home for me and it breaks my heart whenever I hear of a woman who’s husband watches porn. I know how it feels, and I don’t think I’ve ever been more miserable than when I would think about my husband looking at another woman, feeling like I would never be good enough. Take heart! Your husband can overcome it and you can feel loved. It takes strength on his part and love on yours, but it is not impossible.
Eden, thank you for speaking out! I was so inspired by your post and courageousness. I hope you will consider sending your comments to the author of this article as well as the administrators of “The Nest”…they need to know that putting lies out there about pornography is toxic and shouldn’t be perpetrated as “normal” for married couples! How shameful that it is talked about so casually. Thank you again for reaching out, I’m sure there are women out there who will benefit from your advice.
It can be ‘normal’ depending on the relationship, just as NOT looking at porn can be ‘normal’ for other relationships. Who’s to decide what is ‘normal’ for any marriage except for the people in it? Not The Nest (who can write whatever they want), not you (who is clearly worried that everyone believes everything they read on the internet), not me, and not anyone else.
I would give much more credit to these ‘studies’ if they were done by organizations other than groups such as Focus on the Family, Christian Post.com, and other religiously-affiliated and/or uber-conservative groups. I agree those studies put out by those organizations do, in fact, say that pre-marital sex leads to a greater risk of divorce. And as we all know, these groups have absolutely no reason to make these studies such that they are supportive of religious doctrine. And I disagree, all of the posts on here talking about those who use porn as being ‘unhealthy’ or not ‘normal’ are certainly not being respectful, at least not in the common understanding of the world. Further, for people who claim to never watch porn, it seems that they are, however, quite capable of passing judgment on it ALL as being demeaning to women.
Eden-
I think you’re being way too dramatic! I’m a woman, I’m married and I absolutely love porn!! In fact I watch more of it then my husband does. It turns me on and gives me new ideas for our sex life. I have absolutely no problem with my husband watching porn either. It’s fun, and we have an awesome sex life!
This is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever read
HAHA you are all Prudes!!! Porn is awesome, playing in the back groud during a romp I’ll bet ya you have never had so many orgasems!!! oh and I am female and married so try it before you knock it!!! And NO watching porn is not cheating, what a stupid thing to say or think, if you think this way your messed in the head!!! (oh and if you think he isnt watching it behind your back your slow, you should try watching it with him and get something out of it)Same with going to a strip club who cares who pre heats the oven so long as he comes home to you, I mean for enough $ he could get someone else to finish him off!!! And trust me its really good sex when he does get home!!! Open your minds ladies its the 21st centry there are alot of temptations out there keep so him interest in you, by including what he likes, its not all about you!!!!
Men watch porn. Period. My husband has always watched it, dating and married, and I’ve always hated it. But honestly, he’s not going to stop doing it so I have to get over it. And we’re fine. Just depends on what you are willing to deal with I guess. I don’t think it’s a “gateway drug” for cheating but maybe I’m wrong. Guess I’ll have to find out for myself. I think all people do things that they are somewhat embarrassed about and feel kind of ashamed to be doing which is why they aren’t public about it. The more you harass your husbands about porn, the more they will watch it and hide it. Like I said, I hate it too but I’d rather not act like his mother.
Folks (both female and male) who waited to have sex until after marriage are VASTLY overrepresented in this comment thread. No judgment; just statistically speaking. Personally, I did not wait…but then again I was married at 42
. No way was I gonna wait that long for sex…just for the right man to marry!
(And, yea, getting sloppy about b.c. “just because you’re married” is a disservice to females in general and relationships in particular. Not all marriages result in children.)
Amen Heather! Where does The Nest get some of this foolishness?! The should stick to providing recipes and home decor tips and leave the marriage advice alone! Ugh!
Everyone has their own unique marriage, relationship, and way of living so what works for one will not work for another person or couple. As for me and my Husband, we have been together for 7 years and it’s been wonderful. Who knows maybe a look into our marriage may help someone, I also know that it won’t apply to all so for those it does not I’m sorry if I offend.
I understand how porn can be an issue for some especially if it has gotten to the point of addiction. For us though I don’t mind if my husband watches it. He is deployed for 6 months to one year at a time, I have even sent him porn while he’s been on the ship. We have never been the jealous type w/ each other though. While walking hand in hand down the street and a beautiful woman walks by I don’t mind if he looks, I have even pointed some out to him. In my mind it’s human nature to appreciate that beauty. I’m not saying it’s ok for him to go up and flirt w/ her or to basically drool over her but I know he’s going to look. I have looked at and appreciated a good looking man. I see it as a practical approach, as long as a person isn’t truly addicted to it then I don’t see it as a big deal.
As long as he’s coming home to me and truly loving me I don’t care. We have wonderful marriage and have 2 children. Not to say we haven’t had hard times, family separation, giving up career’s and starting up a new life every 2 years, surgeries, miscarriages, financial, deployments, you name it. Life throws problems at you, but that is life, you deal w/ it and push on through.
My point, take a look at it and see what works for you and your marriage, if it’s not some nympho problematic addiction maybe the two of you can find some middle ground. If not then by all means deal w/ it the way it is the best for the two of you.
MNHC,
Thank you for your comment! You are right – we’re not all going to have the same opinions, or the same issues, etc. in our relationships. I think this comment board is about women communicating with each other in effort to help each other through sharing our personal experiences, not to tear each other down for holding differing opinions.
I’m in the “saved myself for marriage/ against porn” group; however, I recognize that these are the boundaries my husband and I have committed to in OUR marriage because they support the morals that are important to US. We still like to experiment in other ways to keep things exciting, but we’ve figured out what works for us and keeps us both feeling satisfied and valued. Porn was a problem for us and actually made us both feel terrible about ourselves. But if another couple watches porn together and both are happy with it and feel like it makes their sex life more healthy, great for them! Not everyone has the same struggles as I do… like you mentioned, you and your husband totally agree on the porn issue, but you still had other struggles to face through your marriage (and I’m so happy to hear that you are still together, maintaining a strong loving relationship through all of your hardships, by the way!)
We don’t all have to agree, but I think we would all benefit a lot more from message boards like these if everyone took the approach of wanting the best for the women reading. So I really appreciate your mature, open-minded comment
Looking at it with an open mind. There’s sacred vows of marriage, there’s natural instinct, and then there’s reality. Guys masturbate. It’s in their nature to ‘release’ because this is the instinct that keeps all animals procreating. Women’s natural drive is to become sexual near ovulation whenever they are not currently pregnant or have young children. Fact. So women, consider men’s daily to three times a week ‘routine’ instinct to get off versus your monthly instinct to get off. Obviously, everyone’s different. Would you rather have a guy looking at porn? or cheating on you? Let’s face reality… likely most, not all, women are the ones in a relationship to turn the guy down for sex and they think we are being selfish. It’s in our nature whether you like it or not. Having said that… PORN should not consume one’s life to the extent that it takes away ANY SEXUAL attention towards their partner. But, if the wife is too tired, has a headache, or doesn’t feel like it… then porn should be fair game.
Studies show it is healthy for both women and men to masturbate. I agree that porn is a personal choice that not everyone is ok with. My aunt is very against porn because her ex-husband has a porn addiction which is a real problem. So it was something I always worried about before I got married but my husband and I have occasionally watch it together. Honestly I have put it on more than he has and use it as a game to see if we can do exactly what they do.
Sexual health and education is a huge deal in our world. Most women do not even know how to have an orgasm, where their g-spot is, or even the difrent kinds of orgasms. Some women can’t even have one which is perfectly normal for their bodies. Everyone has
different desires and needs so it is wrong to dismiss someone’s opinion about sex. There is a huge lack of sexual education in this world. I am happy to see this site posting about sex. Sex should not be a taboo subject anymore.
Here is a great sexual health webs for any one interested http://www.pattybrisbenfoundation.org/
Lenore knows what she is talking about. Porn an issue? No. But those d–n video games sure ARE! After years of marriage and children, now more than ever I feel I lost a husband and gained another child! Funny, before we were married my husband could cook, clean, wash his clothes, pay his taxes and other bills. Now I am the maid and supermom! Yippeee!
The one thing they also don’t tell you is that once you are married, sex is great at least initially. Even after a baby or two. Then between the work, stress, responsibility and lack of sleep, the first thing to go besides your body is your sex life. I would put up with porn if it meant I HAD a sex life. Now we just sleep! Oh well, at least I don’t get yeast and bladder infections anymore! The only thing is, I am only in my early 40′s.What I do in my 50″s, 60″s etc? We’ve already been together over 20 years!
WOW I am watching porn now lol
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